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So there’s lots of “conventional dates” that suck. I’ve done the whole “dinner and a movie” sort of thing and found that though it may work sometimes, there’s way better alternatives out there.

Allow me to explain. Most date ideas are there because they’re accepted by the mainstream. If some poor chap sees a dinner and a movie date in a movie, he’ll think that it would work in real life. This is where experience comes into play. I’ve talked to many women that don’t enjoy going to the movies for a first date because they can’t get to talk to the man they’re with. Dinner is not much of a better choice because it can leave you bloated. Who feels sexy or wants to have sex after eating a 3 course meal?

I’ve found that the unconventional dates that no one else is doing out there are the ones that work best. They show that you’re different than the other guys.

Some guidelines for these dates to succeed: They should give you a lot of time to get physical with your date (a playful activity), they should give you some time to speak face to face, and the date should give her a wide range of emotions. Those are important qualities to look for.

Some date ideas are:

-Renting bikes and biking through the city/countryside
-Going for a walk while checking out different cool shops
-Walking around downtown to reach a nice destination that not many people know about (for me that’s a sandwich shop, or a coffee shop down the street).
-Call her out to help you do grocery shopping.

These are all dating ideas that have worked for me in the past. The reason being is that my date enjoyed my company in any setting that we were in. In fact, I can say she enjoyed these mini dates more because it made things a lot less formal. No pressure means more emphasis on enjoying yourself (rather than trying to impress, or worrying what the other person thinks).

These little dates also allow you to showcase your personality more. That should be a huge “win” in your column if you’ve been following the advice in the other articles on this site.

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“How to get back with your ex girlfriend?” is something that everyone desires to know. It is a common emotionally draining question that everyone will face at one point or another. The answer that I am going to give here is not conventional, and you won’t find this type of thing in any Hollywood movies, or the latest 17teen magazine. However, this is based on my personal experience of the situation. I’ve also taken bits and pieces from “How to get back with your ex girlfriend” ebook.

How to get back with your ex girlfriend tip #1: Stay strong as a man. This means that you should not call her, text her, write her long winded handwritten notes sent by pigeon, etc. You can have your grieving process, but don’t leave your grieving on her answering machine. What I’m saying is you need to move on with your life as a man. There’s nothing more unattractive than having a man emotionally crushed, and doing everything to get a woman’s attention. That reeks of desperation, and it has never worked well. Stop the neediness. Leave that shit for the other 90% of the male population that have trouble getting laid.

How to get back with your ex girlfriend tip #2: Examine the breakup. Who broke up with who? What was the reason for the breakup. If you broke up with the girl because of her character flaw (i.e. she leaves the toilet seat down in your house), then you need to realize that you will not be able to change her. If you don’t like the girl’s personality, you’re SOL (that stands for “shit out of luck” for my foreign readers), so just go find another girl. If you broke up because of a specific situation that arose, then you might be in the clear—a second chance might still work out.

How to get back with your ex girlfriend tip #3: Move on with life, and work on yourself as a person. This is key right here. You need to work on yourself, and become a stronger, better person. Don’t think of this as being something you’re doing to get back with your ex girlfriend. Think of it as something you’re doing for yourself. Girls love guys that are driven, motivated, and self-starters (don’t believe me? Look at who the hottest chicks are dating). Shit’s like catnip for chicks, for real.

Point being, no girl wants to go back to the same dude that eats nachos on the couch and plays Metal Gear Solid 2 all day. That’s why this breakup is a blessing in disguise. It can be the one thing that lights a fire under your ass to get your shit together. I know I’ve been emotionally crushed after breakups a bunch. And instead of letting them beat me up; I used that emotional void in my soul to drive me to success.

How to get back with your ex girlfriend tip #4: Don’t rely on her logic. NEVER try to convince girls or women on a logical basis. Why? Because emotions are EVERYTHING for women. If you want her back, you’ll have to get her emotions in the right spot. The best way to do this is not by being a passive-aggressive manipulative asshole. But rather, as I pointed above, by getting your shit together and letting her see that. That is when you contact her via facebook, text, phone, whatever, and get a chance at having her back. Only after you’ve done the above. This will maximize your chances of getting back together & maintaining a healthy relationship.

Which brings me to How to get back with your ex girlfriend conclusion. As you can see on the above, much of getting your ex back is out of your hands. The best strategy that has worked for me is:

1)      Show her that you can live without her. In fact, you improve yourself a lot after the separation.

2)      Make sure to do the above, and not EVER think of the breakup as, “I’m not good enough so I’ll work on myself”. That is the wrong thinking pattern to have. Think of it more along the lines of, “We’re broken up, ok. I think I’d enjoy life more if I dedicated myself to becoming a better man. Time to do that”. That is the most attractive thing you can do.

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How do you attract a beautiful woman? When it comes to dating, I haven’t always been a stud. I used to be really, really bad in this area of my life. Having said that, I’ve recently gone through massive amounts of success. I’m talking sex with a few different girls in one night, maintaining 3-4 open relationships with hotties, etc. Here’s a run down of what I’m doing now that I find WORKS. This is 100% field tested. I didn’t just conjure this stuff up: I tested that IT WORKS.

First, I’d like to say that money and looks can help, but I’m broke, and I drive a beat up 95′ civic. Its irrelevant to success with women. Your vibe is the most important thing that you have. It is your #1 asset. I can BS you and tell you that I’m not insecure right now, but that’s simply not true. I still feel down sometimes, but it is usually when I’m inside the house or in front of the computer. When I head outside I get in a zone and any insecure thoughts vanish. This is attributed to getting WAY outside of my comfort zone on a regular basis. Getting WAY outside of your comfort zone is the first step to attracting a beautiful woman.

So heres the rundown of attracting hotties:

1.)  You must go out. If you are not going out nothing is gonna happen. Your success is directly correlated with how frequently you head out to an environment where you can meet and talk to women. What helped me a lot here was being socila with everyone: Women AND men. You gotta understand that its OK to introduce yourself to strangers and start a conversation. Simply say, “Hi, my name is ____”, shake hands, and start a conversation. The key is not to expect anything. Just let the conversation flow.

2.) An important thing that I’ve come to understand is that the people who surround you are just as intimidated and insecure as you are. A good way to look at their initial bitchy/aggressive reaction toward you is to recognize that “they may just be nervous, that if I quit the conversation now, is gonna be a lose situation for both, that I need to stick here to help them overcome their fears”.This is where talking to everyone helps. Getting in that social vibing zone is so helpful to attracting beautiful women.

3.)Always remember that if youre in a club, party, or bar, don’t for a second stop interacting with people. Always keep talking. That is the best way to get the ball rolling, and to keep you in a social mood. Thats the type of mood that has led me to attracting beautiful women the same night that I’d meet them. If you’re at a place with darts, a dancefloor, or a pool table, all the better. You can invite the people you meet there to play games/dance.

4.) Go into the place assuming everyone likes you, and they are your friend. Relax as you would with a close group of friends. Forget about trying to impress people. It is much more attractive to be relaxed and “with nothing to prove” in these situations.

5.) This one is a bit ballsy, but it is a huge component to attraction. You should always follow your gut about what you want. Think of what you want to happen in the interaction, and take the right action necessary to make it happen. If you want to talk to a certain girl, do it. If you want to hug her, hug her. Be in the moment (I’ve found that attracting beautiful women has become A LOT easier once I let my body do what it felt like doing). If you want to be alone with her, take her with you, if you want to reward a girl for something she said, do it, if you want to punish her for something she said, do it.

6.) Remember that whatever you’re doing, you’re doing for your self amusement. You have to feel, and believe that you’re your own party. Feel good, and feel great about yourself when you’re socially interacting with people.You are a fun dude, and you’re bringing the fun to the party. The group is not bringing this fun to you. Your fun depends on what you do, not on what the others are saying/doing. Your mindset should be that of, “The coolest thing going on is going on right here with ME”. Even if you’re having a simple conversation, that’s the coolest thing going on at that time. Girls find that extremely attracting. Being so in the zone is highly magnetic.

7.) Speak loud, laugh loud. These are alpha male attraction characteristics 101. Good voice volume draws attention to you right away. Also look into her eyes. Maintaining strong eye contact is important to create attraction, and create rapport with the girl.

8.) Escalate the interaction. Having the above mental attitude pointers to attracting beautiful women, you MUST escalate the interaction. This means initiating physical contact when you feel like you want to touch the girl (in a non-creepy way of course). Escalating is also done by giving her a wide range of emotions. Discussing stuff about sex is great for this:

Have you done a threesome?
Do you like doggy style?
Are you loud in bed?
Does your boyfriend likes to watch?
Have you kissed a girl?

You make the conversation sexual, you are not apologetic about what is it that you want to do or say. Don’t wait for her to show a sign of attraction before escalating. Theres a LOT of girls that are not secure about showing attraction toward a guy because they fear getting shut down. You should escalate regardless. Worst case scenario you two don’t click, and you’re off to find a girl who you can click with.

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I came across this article from RSDnation.com I recommend you guys check it out for inspiration (Brad P is an executive coach with RSD, and he’s really great at the bootcamps he does with those guys).

I remember walking through the streets of Vancouver one night. I had just been coming into a new rockstar-level of success.

Just finishing up an intense filming session in LA with Tyler, I was OWNING shit.

As I walked through the moonlit streets with my buddy Gsaad from RSDNation, he asked me a question. “So what is the difference between guys who have sporadic results, and the guys who PULL consistently?”

I hadn’t really thought about it before, and it caught me off guard.

It took me a while, but I realized what it is.

Self Trust.

It really clicked when I went back and looked at all my old field reports, which are on the forum by the way if any of you guys are interested in seeing my progress…

I realized that all the old little lines that I used to do, 2 years ago, all the little hugs and hip bumps, the stupid faces, whatever…. They are all the same now.

I do EXACTLY the same thing.

What is the difference between now and then?

Self trust.

At the time I was doing those things with probably 85% belief. Enough to get some stellar results, but not like now.

Now it is like 98%.

Where does that level of trust and confidence come from?

Talking to girls in 35 countries, going out to the toughest nightclubs 6 days a week for almost 2 years, teaching it, and gaining secondhand reference points from my friends and clients successes as well.

I have MILLIONS of reference points confirming that these laws of attraction we teach at RSD work.

And the thing is, it might not be the best method. But the fact that I believe in it so strongly… Makes it work.

Let’s take a look at why the natural guy, the guy who doesn’t need to study this material, gets the results he does.

It is because most of those guys have MASSIVE blind spots, and they don’t even recognize when things aren’t going their way. Yet somehow their reality wins out and people fall into their frame.

It is like they have this one track playlist in their head on repeat, “I’m the boss. I’m the fucking boss. I’m the fucking boss.”

And anything the girl does, they can just rationalize to reconfirm this.

The girl says, “Fuck you!”

He interprets it as her playing hard to get.

She says, “Your shirt is gay!”

He thinks she is flirting.

And the girl just falls into that frame.

It’s the old social dynamics self fulfilling prophecy.

Now most guys who get into this industry, start studying this whole “success with women” business, because they are on the opposite end.

They are usually HYPER sensitive to the girl’s reactions.

“Oh, does she like me? How’s my body language? How’s my tonality? Did she just turn away? Is this shirt cool? What about my hair?”

A lot of what I do on bootcamp is blow past all these misconceptions that a client might have, and then prove it to him in real life that HE IS ENOUGH!

You need to realize that your head is like a supercomputer. It only has so much mental RAM to determine how to respond or act in a given situation.

If 20% is paying attention to the girls responses, 20% is worried about your body language, 20% is worried about what you are saying, 20% is worried about your tonality, how much mental energy do you have left to actually pay attention to what the girl is saying?

How much of your mental energy can actually be used MOVING THINGS FORWARD?!

Not much.

So again, a big reason that clients have success after bootcamp is because they get an expert to tell them what they are doing wrong… But ultimately it usually is more about what they are doing right!

EVERY PROGRAM I get guys asking about their tonality, how they dress, whatever insecurity they might have and I always respond…

“Dude, if that were an issue, I’d tell you! Stop worrying about it!”

Again, it frees up your mind to actually LISTEN TO THE GIRL!

What a novel concept, active listening, and then you usually don’t run out of things to say because you are actually paying attention to her.

And you can move on to more important trains of thought like what the logistics of the situation are, and what you need to do to escalate/isolate/pull/close properly.

So besides coming on bootcamp and having an expert point out what you are doing right and wrong, how can you develop more self trust on your own?

Well reading all these articles is a start. The brain sees so many continual reinforcements that the RSD method of building attraction is the proper way of doing things, and you really do come to believe it. It is also reinforcing to see other people utilizing the same techniques and succeeding as well.

But ultimately it is the experience of YOU getting out there and actually putting the concepts into practice, realizing that nothing special is needed to get that girl. You can just “Be yourself”. As vague as that sound, any guy leaving my bootcamp knows EXACTLY what that means.

I know EXACTLY what that is for me. And again, it was only after getting out there and doing it countless times that I came to this realization.

Self trust.

Another huge benefit of the lifestyle I live as a pickup coach is that I get continual reinforcement that I am the shit, the RSD method is the shit, and building up that self trust.

How?

World travel.

You start seeing patterns in every new country. You see the overarching scheme of how attraction works, and how it is the same everywhere.

Just last month I was in the Dominican Republic, and whenever I am in a new country there is always a little bit of that self doubt, “Is this going to work here too?!”

But just like in every other country, when at the end of the night you’ve got a girl chasing you down, the best 19 year old I’ve ever kissed actually, and another country to add to the list, it reaffirms that belief.

I am the shit.

Simple stuff, always opens. This is a great pua opener used a bunch 4-5 years ago.

“Guys, do girls think that David Bowie is hot?”

They’ll talk about it, or some will remember he’s the guy from Willow.

Then if you can’t transition, you can always say “I was reading Maxim over in the 7/11 (convenience store), and this smoking hot model was talking all this shit about how she *loved* David Bowie..”, and then build off of that (although I only did this once, and normally use my stock C&F)

Then STACK any other topic/routine afterwards, and you are IN.

Also, you can do it in a low-key street approach pua opener, by just asking quietly, as if you were having a personal thought for the day or something..

No comments from people who are actually too scared to talk to girls, and don’t like the theory behind it.. Just go try it, I guarantee it will open – it was field tested all night to 100% open, and there were closes from it as well.
StrongBad’s variation

Because my little sister has this big poster of David Bowie up on her wall. Now David Bowie is an old man. He’s OLD!!! Do girls think that OLD MEN are hot???
Tyler’s variation

Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do girls think the rock star David Bowie is hot?

(blah, blah, blah)

Get this… my roommate’s little sister, she’s 7 and half years old, has a HUGE picture of David Bowie on her wall. I’m not talking an 8×10; I’m talking a 4-foot by 6-foot POSTER! It’s like the first thing she sees when she wakes up in the morning.

David Bowie is a freaky looking OLD MAN! She’s like 7 and he’s like 70. I’m seriously worried about my roommate’s little sister…

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This is an excellent article I came across while reading RSDnation. That’s a sick resource, and I recommend it for all of you. The article talks about Brad’s perspective on the age old question of looks and money when it comes to dating:

As a moderator on the RSDNation forum, I am constantly deleting threads with some variation of “I know looks matter!”

Now, I think it could be a worthwhile debate, but history proves the opposite. It just turns into heated nonsense, and RSD Headquarters and the moderation team have decided that it is just better to delete any of the looks discussion threads before they inevitably get out of hand.

Now, since I have my own little platform here, I’ll give you my viewpoint. And there is nothing you can do about it. Hehe.

The big problem that guys have with this whole looks/money/success concept is that they aren’t even asking a proper question.

Do looks matter?

For WHAT?!

Do looks matter for kissing a girl? For taking a shit? For making it rain?

Ask a proper question and things change a bit.

The question that I think most guys want to know is:

Do looks and/or money matter for building female ATTRACTION?

Alright, that changes things a little bit.

And on the most fundamental level, on par with the Blueprint, the answer is

NO!!!!

But looks/money convey certain qualities about a guy that are attractive to a girl. And that, from a superficial level confuses guys.

How do looks and money come into play when building female attraction?

Well first we need to rehash what causes attraction.

VALUE!!!

Again, so the more high value you are, the more attractive you will be.

And again, women value things differently than men.

Men value how a girl looks, girls value ACTION! A MAN OF ACTION! ALPHA! LEADER! CONFIDENCE! DOMINANCE! GRAWRRR!!!

The high value guy is the one taking action, he is the natural leader, not afraid to make a mistake, not giving a fuck what others think of him and getting shit done.

So lets look a little more intensely into this man of action thingy.

How do looks and money convey that you are a man of action?

As much as a girl appreciates security, and a man who can provide for her, that is not the primary reason she may respond more positively to a guy that has money.

It is the fact that he is successful, that is why she is attracted to him. This presupposes that he is a man of action, in whatever arena of his life.

If he takes action in his career, he will probably be just as successful at being a husband, a father, a friend, whatever is necessary.

This applies to the looks debate as well. It is not so much that she sees you wearing a nice shirt and is like, “Oooh, he looks hot.” She sees that you can afford nice clothes, meaning you aren’t just sitting on your ass and cleaning up garbage for a living.

With that, another reason why looks can affect the female’s perspective of you is if you are overweight. If she only has your physical appearance to determine if you are a high value leader of men/man of action, who would look more like that guy? A fat guy, or a ripped dude with the six pack abs?

Well it’s pretty obvious that in this very superficial attribute, the ripped dude is taking action in the gym, and the fat dude is not. And hey, if that is all the girl initially has to work off of, of course it is going to be easier for the ripped dude to build that attraction with her

But guys see these sort of scenarios in the field and they use blanket statements like “Ripped dudes get all the girls! HAHA! I just know it!!”

And that just isn’t the case. I’ve literally proved it to myself by going out, not showering for 2-3 days and growing out my mustache to see if I can still have success pulling girls.

And I have.

I’ve been on program with Alex~ where he wore the same shirt 4 days in a row and was still pulling crazy ass even though he looked pretty haggard. ;)

You can EASILY overpower these hindrances, a guy that eats cheetos all day and watches t.v. can go out and pickup the hottest girl in the club.

But this leads to the discussion that Ryan talks about in one of his articles about cognitive dissonance.

Does it really make sense to be the guy that is lazy all day and then get out to the club and be all “Yeah dude, I’m a high value man of action! If a girl enters my life, she is WINNING!”?

If you are delusional, or just hit up the clubs enough you can overpower those internal self doubts, but don’t think they go away.

It really just doesn’t make sense. The whole reason why women are drawn to confidence is because in the caveman days it was a sign that you had something going on for you, there was something tangible to back it up.

Now we have realized, through all this nerd work and going out for countless hours that you don’t need to be a CEO with all the money in the world, or the good looking dude, but why stack the cards against yourself?

Build a well rounded life, work hard, play hard, hit the gym hard… They all go hand in hand towards being congruent with the whole confidence/self-esteem gig.

And take care of yourself when you hit the club. If you see me out in a club, I’m probably going to be wearing some rock star black shirt and a chunky watch of sorts.

Do I think it directly gets me girls? No. But it does convey that I take care of myself, that I am not just some slob who throws on whatever. And it shows that I can afford a cool watch or something, which shows I probably am doing well in my career too. It’s also good for the little self-esteem boost that Tyler talks about in the Blueprint, you just feel damn good wearing some new sweet gear.

But I know that is for myself, not for the girl.

I agree with this for the most part. It definitely applies 100% if you’re at a stage of your life where you’re dating, and not necessarily “looking for someone to marry”. Many women that I’ve talked to will look at a dudes financial stability before they marry him no matter how good his game is. But if you’re just going out to clubs to get laid the above article is applicable 100% WOO!

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The way you get a girl is to say, ‘No problem.’ Everything, no problem,” says a Russian mobster named Peter that’s sitting next to me at dinner. “If they late then you just have a drink alone. When they show up you say, ‘Hey, don’t worry about it.’ And you go on with the night. Everything is no problem forever and ever. Don’t call me back—no problem. See you on the street with another guy—no problem.”

Peter now has the attention of the entire table. He moves his head from far left to far right in a sweeping gesture that’s so slow it makes me think he’s totally forgotten what the fuck he was talking about. After making sure everyone is silent, he adds, “…then…when she finally say those three words. When she finally say, ‘I love you’. YOU TURN THAT BITCH OVER AND YOU FUCKING PUNISH HER FOR ALL THE BULLSHIT SHE PUT YOU THROUGH!!!”

Peter is a scary meathead who talks to trees, wears Zubas and is about to go to jail for double homicide. He’s also kind of right. The best way to get the girl you like is to be laid-back and casual, then, once you have her, be a Russian mobster. That’s easier said than done. Picking up chicks is hard. All women have to do to get laid is say “yes” and lie down. Even fat girls can do well if they put on high heels and wait until last call. Blacks get to fuck whomever they want and if they go to Scotland they get laid even more than that. Gays and lesbians get so laid they’re already bored with it. But what about the other 2.98756 billion of us? How do we get laid? Read on, motherfucker…

FUN GUY
The problem with really wanting to get laid is you look like someone who really wants to get laid. The horny you is like the marketing head in How to Get Ahead in Advertising. You have to deny him or he will kill you. Instead of worrying about who is going to fuck you, just go out and be gregarious guy. “Hey, what’s your name? Oh, Mark? How’s it going, Mark? I’m Chris. Who’s this?” “I’m Julie.” “Hey Julie. Do you guys want some Percodan?” We know you want to fuck Julie. We all want to fuck Julie. Just don’t admit it to anyone. Not even to yourself. Even if a close female friend, one you trust, asks if you want to fuck Julie, make a joke like, “I want to fuck MARK, don’t you? Meow!” Nobody needs to know you have a penis. Of course, you have to be careful with this kind of attitude and not be too faggy. Throw in a few “That’s nobody’s business but my own” and maybe protect one or two girls from those wasted geriatric Polish guys that are always hanging around. You need to establish that you are not a pussy and you need to make sure you don’t slip into the friend zone (more on that later). If you’re really outgoing and pals-y, you should have a ton of numbers and email addresses at the end of the night. Throw the dude ones in the garbage.

FUN GUY: PHASE TWO
You shouldn’t take a girl out on a date until you’ve fucked her at least once. Before any kind of dating scenario you have to extend your fun-guy phase just a little bit longer. That means if you want to see her again you call her from somewhere really fun and basically invite her to a party like she’s one of the guys. “Hey, what’s going on, it’s me, Red Pants [an allusion to a previous inside joke you guys have]. We’re all at DaVinci’s and it’s pretty fun. Some wasted old lady is dancing naked on the bar and everyone from the Shit Biscuit is here. On a 1 to 10 fun scale I’d give it an 8.2 [she laughs]. From now on I’ll only call you when it’s an 8 or over. I’ll be your fun spy. Anyway, it’s at 360 1st Avenue. See you there.” (Keep reading…)

This is an article about the best way of passing a woman’s tests. Girls throw these at you all the time, and if you fail them, your chance of hooking up with her become nil. By the way, I’ve been super busy lately, so sorry for the lack of updates. Lotta cool stuff going on though, and I’m trying to keep up with all of it =)

Passing A Woman’s Tests:

First, you need to understand that women will constantly test you to see if you’re high value enough to hook up with them. If you approach them looking confident, they will want to test you to see if you really are that confident dude that you’re portraying. This should be viewed as a good thing. If she would not be into you, then she’d simply walk away and not talk to you. Her tests are a great opportunity to get crazy amounts of attraction.

Every time you pass a test that she throws at you, her subconscious is thinking, “damn, this guy passed another test with flying colours, he must be high-value. I should hook up with him”. Here are the top ways to pass her tests:

1.) Stay unreactive.

This is huge. Girls like a man who is in control of himself. If he cannot control himself than he will not be able to control her. When she tests you by saying something like, “why are you even talking to me?”, or “you’re too short” you have to stay completely cool. You need to have 100% belief in yourself. Comments like that should not affect your mood at all because you know that you’re a high-value man. Also remember: Whoever is reacting more in the interaction tends to be the lower value person. This is because being non-reactive = being in control.

2.) Maintain your attitude.

Apart from not showing any emotional reaction to her tests, you also need to maintain the same intensity in the approach that you were showing earlier. If she tests you and that causes you to take your game a few notches down, you’re showing her that the test demoralized you. You basically need to keep up the same level of intensity, and the same level of energy before the test, and after her test. Otherwise, you’ll fail her congruence test.

3.) Use humour to diffuse situation

Act unapologetically to her test. Basically say whatever you’d say if you were 100% honest with some humour thrown in. A sample interaction is here (Credit Brad RSD):

HER: Is that your pickup line?

ME: Yeah, did it work?

HER: Why are you talking to me?

ME: Because I think you are hot.

HER: What do you want?

ME: You.

Another response is to ignore her test. Basically say something random that shows her that her tests don’t affect you. You’re not even acknowledging the fact that she’s testing you-you’re simply carrying forward with the pick up.

HER: Why are you talking to me?

ME: Yeah, I can’t believe what just happened in the bathroom…

You just don’t even recognize she was trying to fuck with you and keep moving forward.

This leads to one of my favorite responses whenever I get any shit test:

HER: Nice shirt.

ME: Thanks.

HER: I’m sorry you are too short for me.

ME: Thanks.

HER: I’m sorry you are too old for me.

ME: Thanks.

Your attitude is that the test is so outside of your reality that it did not register at all. You’re simply carrying on with business as usual. A third way to passing a woman’s tests is answering the question you wish she had asked.

HER: Are you trying to pick me up?

ME: No, I had pizza for lunch.

HER: What do you want?

ME: No, I will not makeout with you!

ME: Give me your number.

HER: Sure, I’ll give you my number, just like the 20 other numbers you got tonight.

ME: Oh, OK, well I don’t really need your number we could just go fuck in the bathroom right now.

The last way to pass a test is to over exaggerate. You’re taking what she said and blowing it way out of proportion. This is a tricky one because if you push it too far you will pass her test. But just like the ones I mentioned above, it can be very good with some practice.

HER: You are just trying to have sex with me.

ME: No, actually, I am celibate. I’ve been hurt too many times, and please don’t try to take advantage of me, I’m a shattered vulnerable child. And sex is gross anyways.

So to summarize:

The fact that she’s testing you is good. It means that she cares enough to see if you’re the cool dude who will have sex with her tonight. Passing a woman’s tests will cause massive spikes in attraction, and will make her really into you! So, have fun with it, and try the above methods to see which you like using best.

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I’ve thought lots about the psychology of attraction, and what women really like. This is hard to figure out for most guys because what women respond to, and what women think they respond to are two very different things. Women have a difficulty being completely honest about the type of guys they’re attracted to. This is mainly because they don’t want to appear to be slutty. However, if they were honest, most would say that they like “a sexual man who will create an opportunity for sex, and persist past any tests that I throw at him”. Understand: Women are VERY sexual, and like sex more than guys! That is something that a lot of guys don’t understand. It makes understanding the psychology of attraction truly difficult for them.

When it comes to escalating sexually, you have to take the lead. This has been decided long ago on a biological level. Women are more submissive, so you need to have the balls to be dominant, and lead the interaction. One reason for this is because the woman does NOT want to look like a slut. Initiating sex would make her look like one, so that’s the furthest thing from what she wants to do. The last thing she wants is to be perceived negatively by her friends.

For you to get laid, you need to make the woman feel comfortable enough to sleep with you without any fear of consequences for her. A key point to make this happen is by being/appearing the sex worthy guy who gets lots of sex all the time. If you have a type of attitude where hooking up is a common thing to do she will feel more comfortable as well. Comfort is an important element in the psychology of attraction.

I’ve picked up a bunch of girls at clubs using this mindset. Concentrate on leading, and subtly making her think that she can have sex with you with no consequences. Women crave sex more than guys do (I know this from experience). They would love to have sex with an alpha male with no strings attached. The most important thing for you to do is to convey that you are that alpha male.

Have you ever been on vacation and witnessed how everyone with a bit of game hooks up? That’s because there’s no accountability. The women are not going to be labeled as sluts, so they drop their social anxiety and do what they truly want to do. You can achieve the same result as this by being a sex-worthy alpha male. That’s power!

Another important tip from a psychology of attraction perspective is to make her feel lots of good emotions. Make sure she’s feeling a range of emotions while she is with you. This means teasing her, complimenting her, being hot/cold, telling her interesting/compelling stories about yourself, etc. That will make her really interested in you. Women aren’t interested in guys on a logical level. They are highly emotional, and require a wide range of emotions to make them feel interested.

So to summarize:

The psychology of attraction key components are:

1.) Lead the interaction
2.) Make her feel comfortable
3.) Sub-communicate that sex is normal
4.) Get a range of emotions from her

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This dating profile advice has been written after years of online dating experimentation. I still go out to bars and clubs to pick up girls regularly. However, I’ve found that online dating can supplement your dating life greatly. If you do start with internet dating, you’ll soon find that there’s lots of really cool girls that are online because they lead busy lives and are still interested in meeting high quality guys.

Your base for online dating is your profile, the first message that you send, and your pictures. If any of those is weak your online dating experience will be hindered. It’s a chain reaction that needs to be solid throughout. Also, I’ll be posting a bunch of dating profile advice tips in the next few weeks about messages, pictures, etc (basically all of the necessary components to a successful online dating experience).

Ok, so here are the most important lessons that I’ve learned for dating profile advice:

Having a good profile is KEY. If it sucks, girls will not respond well no matter how good your pictures or messages are. The most important piece of advice I can give you is to test and test again. The profile that I use now has been changed over 15 times before arriving at the current state that it is in. I want to stress that you need to have a good profile, and that spending some time on it is very important. Start with the basics, and make slight changes to it to see if the response rate for the messages that you’re sending improves or not.

Make sure your profile stands out. It has to be unique, and show her why she should message you as opposed to the 234234 other guys on the dating website.

A shorter read is generally better. I’ve had the best results with a profile in the 250-350 words range. That is usually more than enough to convey all you need to convey. Your profile should highlight your best characteristics (Demonstrations of Higher Value-DHV). And throw a couple of things that make you look human. You need to talk about your most positive qualities while at the same time throwing a coupe of “slight negatives” (i.e. showing sensitive side) to make sure it doesn’t appear too good to be true. On a completely unrelated note, GPS for cars is an awesome resource for GPS systems.

These “negatives” should be things that will make a girl MORE attracted to you. For example, mentioning that there’s movies you cried in, that your family is really important to you, or some other sensitive side of yours.

I like to throw in some qualifiers as well. For example, I’ll mention the following: (Keep reading…)