Many of the stories and examples provided in this book are based on college life experience. This is understandable since the author, Joseph Matthews, wrote it when he was in his mid-twenties.

Some of the approaches specified will seem outlandish if you’re a mature guy (in the thirty plus range). Despite this, I found The Art Of Approaching to be a very good book with plenty of high quality information for anyone.

Joseph describes the experience from his youth: Generally shy, and far from a ladies man. This all changed when he had a strong realization that urged him to take charge of his dating life. The motivation that made him learn how to approach and date beautiful women also led to him developing a business where he teaches other men to approach successfully.

If you’re a young guy who sees the amazing results that are possible to achieve with a solid foundation of dating knowledge, then you can feel CONFIDENT that you have selected a book that was written with you in mind. The advice this book provides can be used right away.

According to the author 10 percent of the male population enjoy 90 percent of success when it comes to dating with women. As the book states, his goals is to put the reader into the 10 percent that are experiencing awesome dating success. Joseph also emphasizes that attracting women is a skill that can be learned. “Attraction is a skill, just like Basketball is a skill, or golfing is a skill, or carpentry, playing video games, and cooking. You’re not born knowing how to do these things. You LEARN how to do them.”

I agree with the above 100%. It is possible to learn a lot simply by trial an error, but I truly believe the best way to improve your dating life is by learning from someone who has been there before, made the hundreds of mistakes, and learned from them.

Essentially, that is what this book is about. Learning the shortcuts that Joseph has discovered through massive trial and error.

The book is easy to read, and it is packed with useful content. This puts it at 350+ pages of material that I found to be practical, and thought-provoking. The main premise that this The Art Of Approaching focuses on is the ideal way to introduce yourself to women in order to get a romantic encounter with them later on. The sections are organized in an easy-to-understand way: The Art of Body Language, The Art of Flirting, etc.

One quip I had with this book was the amount of theory presented early on. I think that the best way to learn is by doing, so I think that one of the best learning tools is practical examples. Fortunately, many of the later sections do have examples that illustrate perfectly the main points that Joseph Matthews was trying to get across. Another possible improvement could be reducing some of the chapters that focus on psychological analysis of why most men behave the way they do around women. Because of this, only on page 109 does the author let you know that the background information section is over, and that now you’re heading off into the first part of his approach method.

Despite this, let me state again that this book is absolutely FILLED with all sorts of great content that is sure to help the dating life of anyone reading it. But, you might need to read through a few sections that aren’t as applicable to you in order to get to the parts that will help your dating life greatly. The real-life examples are extremely well written, and you even get a glimpse into characters such as Mystery, Style, and Zan

The bottom line is that this big book on The Art of Approaching has a lot of great content that will be extremely useful for any guy that wants to improve his dating life. Add it to your dating manual collection today.

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If the above applies to you, you’re in the right place. Mike Pilinski wrote “Without Embarrassment” specifically to help you get over your fear. Mike uses the term Severe Rejection Hyper-Sensitivity (SRHS) to describe the above symptoms. With “Without Embarrassment”, Mike’s goal is to help you identify the cause of this condition, and work towards eliminating the devastating effects that it can have over your love life.

Michael Pilinski didn’t always possess the awesome skill in approaching women that he now has. He used to be a rejection-hypersensitive guy whose inability to feel comfortable around women created some serious problems for his sex life. After deciding that “enough was enough” Michael got on a journey of discovering the reasons behind his shyness, as well as lots of experimental interactions with women. This led to him discovering some key realizations about the way that women view men. One of the key principles that he emphasizes in the book is the importance of being viewed as a High Status Male.

This book is collection of all of most important lessons that Mike Pilinski has managed to learn after he committed himself to getting the dating area of his life handled. One of the most useful tools I found in “Without Embarrassment” was the Male Dominance Scale. It is a scale that women use to grade a man as someone who is sex-worthy, or not. You can use it to see how well you rank. This really opened up my eyes as it provided as an objective way to rank how women view me.

His subtitle for the book is “The Social Coward’s Totally Fearless Seduction System”. After having read the book I agree that this sums up the content quite well.

What You Will Find Inside

You’ll find seven fully-detailed chapters in “Without Embarrassment” plus a few appendices that add material, such as a male dominance scale test that can be used to determine your current “worth” in the eyes of women.

Mike’s book is written from the perspective of a guy who is genuinely interested in the subject of dating. He is not

writing for this genre to make a quick buck. Rather, the content reads with a degree of maturity and sophistication. As an example, the beginning of the book talks about the courting rituals that the Greek Spartans used hundreds of years ago. He makes the comparison to modern courting rituals. With content such as this he delves much deeper than most of the other authors in this genre.

“Without Embarrassment” also goes into enough detail discussing how your genes haven’t evolved as much as your surroundings have. This causes conflict between the way your brain responds to social and physical stimuli. As a consequence, a conflict between the two often arises. This is the same conflict that causes you to feel awkward and shy

around women.

Having gone into theory this book also gives you practical steps toward approaching women with no fear. Michael

Pilinski says it best, `”You will learn some of the classiest methods imaginable to influence and seduce the kind of great looking girls that you’ve always fantasized about having”. Pilinski’s method of doing this is by teaching you how to act like a High-Status Dominant Male.

It was interesting to see how seriously Pilinski takes dating. This probably has something to do with him not being a physically attractive guy, and not having the type of personality to offset that. You can feel for the rejections that he has had to face learning all of the valuable lessons that are enclosed in those pages.

One of the main points that is re-inforced throughout the book is that women respond to actions rather than looks. This is illustrated with the male dominance scale. How women react to you, and their level of attractiveness depends on your character, and how you handle yourself.

So, my overall message for ”Without Embarrassment” is 2 thumbs way up. This is the best book about overcoming the fear of approaching women that I’ve come across so far. If you are the kind of guy who feels he may have some of the symptoms of Rejection Hypersensitivity syndrome that Michael Pilinski describes I would label ”Without Embarrassment” as simply a MUST READ.

The author is not an arrogant, cocky dude. John is 39, and his style of writing shows that he has plenty of life-experience. He was not an Alpha Male when he was younger, and instead became one later on in his life. I thought that was inspiring because it shows that his method can be learned by someone who was not an alpha male for most of their life. When I was reading this book for the first time, that was highly motivational for me. Its great to see that attracting women is a skill that you can develop rather than a natural born ability.

John Alexander points out early on in his book that most guides written for men about how to attract favorable attention from women focus largely on WHAT to do to please the woman. His approach, he says, is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to. This is something that I advocate highly. When you focus on yourself you see huge benefits in other areas of your life totally unrelated to dating. This type of approach makes you a more well-rounded person. This also allows you to grow in multiple areas of your life.

When you’re doing things to attract the girl you are shooting yourself in the foot. Some shady tactics may work temporarily, but this approach seldom lasts on a long term scale. That is why I think this book is so awesome. It focuses on working on yourself. Making yourself the attractive alpha male.

Become the alpha male, says John, and you will ALWAYS BE the alpha male, no matter how things turn out in any one relationship. You will then always be able to simply BE YOURSELF, and “lots of quality dates” without any difficulty whatsoever. I know this to be true from personal experience. The alpha males in my circle of friends attract girls easily and frequently. They subconsciously use the same concepts that John teaches in the book. They learned to use these principles while they were growing up from family, and life experiences. In Become an Alpha Male John Alexander re-states all the most important lessons that I’ve learned from my alpha male friends over the years.

Although the cover of the book looks like many of the other dating guides out there (with the typical silhouettes of seductive-looking girls), I was pleasantly surprised at the great content inside. The best way for me to describe it would be to say it was a well-written logical description of 3 key parts of dating:

Approaching, your behavior when you’re around women, and finally, bringing them into your life. Oh, and did I mention the sex that you will experience as a result of this? I definitely should because this book explicitly sets out sex as the ultimate goal behind all of the great concepts that John teaches. In fact, he has a perfect way to describe how each method taught leads to sex.

His concepts could be best described in 2 parts:

• Becoming a guy that feels good about himself naturally. The type of person that doesn’t seek validation from others. The book explains clearly what you need to do to become this guy. This is the type of person that is irresistible to women. I have personally seen that time and time again while approaching women.

• Making sure that the woman who you’re pursuing would never be perceived as a “slut” for having sex with you. This is key, and John emphasizes it a lot. Women will do whatever is possible in order to avoid looking promiscuous.

There are tons of other principles and concepts that are explained in the book. All of them are meant to guide you toward becoming the Alpha Male that lives in a total abundance of women.

I’d like to say that in order to fully get the best out of this product, you should make sure to take the time to practice and really learn the principles that are discussed in this book. In my opinion the best way to learn is by doing. So make sure to apply the concepts in your daily life right after you read about them. If you do that, this book could bring you the results that you want.

Another great thing is that many of the principles that are directly applicable to attracting women will have improvements on other areas of your life. I’ve used the info within the book to take a leadership role at my current job, as well as become an assistant coach on a wrestling team. The concepts taught in this book also applied to interactions with men. When you’re an alpha male, men will typically give you a leadership role.

Something that I really enjoyed was how absorbed I became in the reading. Unlike many other dating products that I’ve read this one kept me engaged throughout. In fact, I’m sure that it will be easy for you to read through this book cover to cover.

Just in case, an audio version of the book is available for customers of the ebook (a link to a discounted audio file version is found near the end of the book). This is great because it allows you to repeatedly expose yourself to these concepts to make sure they really become internalized for you. Also, the author give his email, and a bunch of free online consultations if you have any follow up questions. I thought that was a nice touch, and it emphasizes the fact that John really wants to help guys get better at dating.

“How To Become An Alpha Male” gets my top recommendation. Grab this one – you won’t regret it!

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