I recommend working with a personal trainer. I’ve done it for a few years, and the results have been amazing for me. The Toronto Personal Trainer that I use pushes me 3-4 times a week, and he also puts a large emphasis on my mental strength.

After completing a workout, nothing seems like a challenge anymore. I’ve worked out for years alone, but having a personal trainer is simply awesome. It can really push you to the next level of results.

So to sum it up: If you’re doing everything in your power to become better at talking/hooking up with women, getting a personal trainer to help you with your physical appearance/mental fortitude is something that I highly recommended.

Here’s a sample of some stuff that we work on:

-High intensity interval training

-Free weight exercises

-Resistence band training

-Flexibility/agility training.

Tyler Durden Speaks about how you should view your value in the club, and getting boners while talking to cute girls. For those who don’t know, he’s the head guy at Real Social Dynamics (RSD). Solid dude, with top notch game, those guys charge something like $1000-2000 for a bootcamp with a student, so its awesome when you get to see vids and stuff for free.

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Failure and dating are two things that go hand in hand. Here’s an awesome article I found by Ozzie from RSDNation.com. Those guys offer awesome bootcamps that I highly recommend, and they’re top notch in the dating field. Anyways, off to the article that I found very inspiring (my comments are in italics):

Unless You Try-Ozzie

In This Article
- Mantra of “try and see”
- “Spill over” effect of pickup
- Predicting catastrophes
- Mixed set scare (talking to a girl who is with a guy)

I think I made a life philosophy out of this simple mantra. Keeping it simple has always been my credo. I don’t believe in complicated solutions to big problems. (More on this in my book “The Physical Game” coming out TODAY)

Failure dating “try and see” approach.

- Experiment. “Try and see” what happens has always been a part of my life. When I started to experiment with physical game I couldn’t believe the kind of shit I could get away with. Make a girl suck your dick over your pants. Go for it. There is other stuff that I did that I won’t even say for the sake of not appearing like a braggart — most shit that happens in-field sounds unbelievable to the layman. Girls get sexual very quickly when you truly don’t give a shit.

- Keep it simple. I took a big chunk out of this philosophy from seeing Tim in the field. Whatever it is, just try it and don’t overcomplicate the thing. Keeping it simple is the best way to build a solid foundation. Once your foundation is built, you can get complex if you so wish.

The Story

I remember an RSD retreat in Greece, 2006. The whole crew was there. We had so much crazy shit happen to us on that retreat we had to make a habit of improvising on-the-go. From being stranded on a dirty hippie island with one water taxi a day, to banging girls, to getting ourselves into unavailable hotel rooms, to hop flying in a small cheap plane from one island to Athens etc. In the end everything worked out and we had some of the best moments ever. I learned that nothing is impossible if you “try and see”. I remember being stranded in Ios Island with no hotel rooms available, our entire luggage on the floor of a Cafe at almost 11PM with no prospect of having a place to sleep and Papa walking around the island on an impossible mission to find a place for us in a tourist-packed party island. Not only did he get us rooms but he also got us into one of the best beachfront hotels on the island for a fraction of the cost. It blew my mind. He resorted to a front office contact he cleverly got from a receptionist girl I banged in Mykonos Island.

Generalization

It is customary for guys who take RSD programs to change other parts of their lives. The program and newfound confidence has a “spillover” effect on their jobs, friend relations and overall life. Plenty of dudes leave my program and decide to quit their “chode” jobs — I don’t endorse this — and go on a world tour. They think “if I can get women, I can do whatever I want with my life”.

This “spillover” effect leads them to take on new challenges: new jobs, embark on new business ventures, etc. Confidence breeds confidence. Wanting to be great with women has inspired me to really step up in seemingly unrelated areas of my life as well: school, work, business, gym, etc. Pick up has been a very positive influence on me.

You can play the system when the system has no play with you.

Remember:

When you crystal ball interactions into major catastrophes, you reduce your “try and see” capacity. You expect the worst so you won’t try. You feel like if you approach a mixed set the guy will beat you up, however unlikely the prospect is. You would be surprised how many guys won’t approach mixed sets because of this fear.

The Mixed Set Scare

I approach mix sets all the time, I know they are the simplest. My mixed set skill has gone through the roof because of this. I have gotten so good at befriending guys in set that I have ended up “amogging” the girls at times. Sometimes guys start talking to me all at the same time and the girl leaves the set and I have to chase her back into it. It has happened on a couple of occasions — I see my girl getting ignored while guys mob me with high-fives and ask me questions like little school girls. I have tried to patch this up by approaching girls first but still I get it once in a while.

COACH INSIGHT
If you are afraid guys will “beat you up” you might want to think in terms of worst case scenario here and evaluate the situation more realistically: “The worst that can happen is that a jealous boyfriend beats me but it is unlikely”. So you go ahead and “try and see” for yourself. Since you know worst case scenarios are unlikely you will approach with less fear. The less fear the greater your “try and see” capacity. You will be more action-oriented and less analysis-based.

Soon your “generalization” will kick in. After a couple of good interactions with guys in mixed sets, your mind will “generalize” that it is always positive like that — your mind will rule out the chance of a worst case scenario. Your fear will be reduced.

You can apply this generalization concept to every area of the game: opening girls “out of your league”, getting physical from the opener, making out, pulling to dance floor etc. For every good experience you have, your mind will do the “generalization” job. Your fear to do those “scary” feats will be greatly reduced to the point that fear is almost gone. For me to have any fear approaching after doing this for more than 5 years, I need to crank it up manually. Simply, I am not afraid of doing anything anymore.

So after generalization, your “try and see” meter will go up. You will just try and see what happens with those things you are scared of doing.

Good hunting!

Steps to success
- If fear was not an issue how much would you try in the field?
- What is the worst case scenario of approaching a group of people? Can you handle it?

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Everyone’s heard of Jersey Shore. The MTV show that took the Nielsen ratings by storm last year. It’s a show about a bunch of guido girls and guys living in one house together. Like Big Brother- only with orange tans, tattoos, and Italians instead.

There are a lot of people watching the show, and I’d like to briefly comment on the game that these guys possess. Being followed with cameras all the time shows high value. That means that when these guys hit the club, they already have the attention on them. This makes picking up girls easier, yet some of these dudes still fuck it up. I’m writing a series of articles “case study” style on these dudes, so check back for more analysis.

First off, let me start by saying that Pauly D has the best game in the house. If you want to see great game in action, just take note on how this guy talks/acts around girls. There’s no doubt in my mind that he gets laid the most out of the dudes in the house. He’s got a winner’s attitude, and his game is tight.

Pauly truly shines in the latest episode of season 2 (aired Thursday Sept 16th). He provides value in most of his interactions. Apart from that, he goes 1 on 1 against the situation at the club. They both pull girls home, and pauly’s chick is down to fuck (DTF) while the situation’s chick freaks out at him and leaves. This was probably because the situation was doing something crazy like putting his finger in the chick’s butt before sex. If you ever want to finger a chick’s ass you should do it slowly while fucking her doggy style. Make sure you massage her bum first before working your finger in there, but I digress.

Since Pauly’s girl leaves too, he decides on calling some numbers from the club. A lot don’t pick up, but the one that does decides to come see him at 6 a.m. If a chick comes out to see you on such short notice she’s obviously DTF.

Instead of being a nice wing and leaving, the situation gets a sandwich and eats it in the same room while they’re hooking up. Weak game by the Situation! To add insult to injury, he tries talking to Pauly while Pauly is literally in bed about to fuck the chick. As a good wing you should forget about nursing your bruised ego, and just let your roommate hook up.

Pauly D continues his streak of awesome game by inviting another girl out to dinner. He keeps on busting her balls (teasing) her through out the interaction which is great. Take in this awesome snippet from the phone call for example:

Pauly:”So Vinny is bringing the girl that he loves over to a restaurant, and I wanted to bring the girl that I love to dinner as well… You can come too”.

The chick laughs, and her attraction increases. Big win for my man Pauly D! And its not only that he’s good around girls. He comforts Vinny really well when Vinny’s date doesn’t show up. Pauly also tries to hook up the situation after his date bolts out of their house. Its pretty awesome to see such a value giving dude.

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So there’s lots of “conventional dates” that suck. I’ve done the whole “dinner and a movie” sort of thing and found that though it may work sometimes, there’s way better alternatives out there.

Allow me to explain. Most date ideas are there because they’re accepted by the mainstream. If some poor chap sees a dinner and a movie date in a movie, he’ll think that it would work in real life. This is where experience comes into play. I’ve talked to many women that don’t enjoy going to the movies for a first date because they can’t get to talk to the man they’re with. Dinner is not much of a better choice because it can leave you bloated. Who feels sexy or wants to have sex after eating a 3 course meal?

I’ve found that the unconventional dates that no one else is doing out there are the ones that work best. They show that you’re different than the other guys.

Some guidelines for these dates to succeed: They should give you a lot of time to get physical with your date (a playful activity), they should give you some time to speak face to face, and the date should give her a wide range of emotions. Those are important qualities to look for.

Some date ideas are:

-Renting bikes and biking through the city/countryside
-Going for a walk while checking out different cool shops
-Walking around downtown to reach a nice destination that not many people know about (for me that’s a sandwich shop, or a coffee shop down the street).
-Call her out to help you do grocery shopping.

These are all dating ideas that have worked for me in the past. The reason being is that my date enjoyed my company in any setting that we were in. In fact, I can say she enjoyed these mini dates more because it made things a lot less formal. No pressure means more emphasis on enjoying yourself (rather than trying to impress, or worrying what the other person thinks).

These little dates also allow you to showcase your personality more. That should be a huge “win” in your column if you’ve been following the advice in the other articles on this site.

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I remember walking through the streets of Vancouver one night. I had just been coming into a new rockstar-level of success.

Just finishing up an intense filming session in LA with Tyler, I was OWNING shit.

As I walked through the moonlit streets with my buddy Gsaad from RSDNation, he asked me a question. “So what is the difference between guys who have sporadic results, and the guys who PULL consistently?”

I hadn’t really thought about it before, and it caught me off guard.

It took me a while, but I realized what it is.

Self Trust.

It really clicked when I went back and looked at all my old field reports, which are on the forum by the way if any of you guys are interested in seeing my progress…

I realized that all the old little lines that I used to do, 2 years ago, all the little hugs and hip bumps, the stupid faces, whatever…. They are all the same now.

I do EXACTLY the same thing.

What is the difference between now and then?

Self trust.

At the time I was doing those things with probably 85% belief. Enough to get some stellar results, but not like now.

Now it is like 98%.

Where does that level of trust and confidence come from?

Talking to girls in 35 countries, going out to the toughest nightclubs 6 days a week for almost 2 years, teaching it, and gaining secondhand reference points from my friends and clients successes as well.

I have MILLIONS of reference points confirming that these laws of attraction we teach at RSD work.

And the thing is, it might not be the best method. But the fact that I believe in it so strongly… Makes it work.

Let’s take a look at why the natural guy, the guy who doesn’t need to study this material, gets the results he does.

It is because most of those guys have MASSIVE blind spots, and they don’t even recognize when things aren’t going their way. Yet somehow their reality wins out and people fall into their frame.

It is like they have this one track playlist in their head on repeat, “I’m the boss. I’m the fucking boss. I’m the fucking boss.”

And anything the girl does, they can just rationalize to reconfirm this.

The girl says, “Fuck you!”

He interprets it as her playing hard to get.

She says, “Your shirt is gay!”

He thinks she is flirting.

And the girl just falls into that frame.

It’s the old social dynamics self fulfilling prophecy.

Now most guys who get into this industry, start studying this whole “success with women” business, because they are on the opposite end.

They are usually HYPER sensitive to the girl’s reactions.

“Oh, does she like me? How’s my body language? How’s my tonality? Did she just turn away? Is this shirt cool? What about my hair?”

A lot of what I do on bootcamp is blow past all these misconceptions that a client might have, and then prove it to him in real life that HE IS ENOUGH!

You need to realize that your head is like a supercomputer. It only has so much mental RAM to determine how to respond or act in a given situation.

If 20% is paying attention to the girls responses, 20% is worried about your body language, 20% is worried about what you are saying, 20% is worried about your tonality, how much mental energy do you have left to actually pay attention to what the girl is saying?

How much of your mental energy can actually be used MOVING THINGS FORWARD?!

Not much.

So again, a big reason that clients have success after bootcamp is because they get an expert to tell them what they are doing wrong… But ultimately it usually is more about what they are doing right!

EVERY PROGRAM I get guys asking about their tonality, how they dress, whatever insecurity they might have and I always respond…

“Dude, if that were an issue, I’d tell you! Stop worrying about it!”

Again, it frees up your mind to actually LISTEN TO THE GIRL!

What a novel concept, active listening, and then you usually don’t run out of things to say because you are actually paying attention to her.

And you can move on to more important trains of thought like what the logistics of the situation are, and what you need to do to escalate/isolate/pull/close properly.

So besides coming on bootcamp and having an expert point out what you are doing right and wrong, how can you develop more self trust on your own?

Well reading all these articles is a start. The brain sees so many continual reinforcements that the RSD method of building attraction is the proper way of doing things, and you really do come to believe it. It is also reinforcing to see other people utilizing the same techniques and succeeding as well.

But ultimately it is the experience of YOU getting out there and actually putting the concepts into practice, realizing that nothing special is needed to get that girl. You can just “Be yourself”. As vague as that sound, any guy leaving my bootcamp knows EXACTLY what that means.

I know EXACTLY what that is for me. And again, it was only after getting out there and doing it countless times that I came to this realization.

Self trust.

Another huge benefit of the lifestyle I live as a pickup coach is that I get continual reinforcement that I am the shit, the RSD method is the shit, and building up that self trust.

How?

World travel.

You start seeing patterns in every new country. You see the overarching scheme of how attraction works, and how it is the same everywhere.

Just last month I was in the Dominican Republic, and whenever I am in a new country there is always a little bit of that self doubt, “Is this going to work here too?!”

But just like in every other country, when at the end of the night you’ve got a girl chasing you down, the best 19 year old I’ve ever kissed actually, and another country to add to the list, it reaffirms that belief.

I am the shit.

“Guys, do girls think that David Bowie is hot?”

They’ll talk about it, or some will remember he’s the guy from Willow.

Then if you can’t transition, you can always say “I was reading Maxim over in the 7/11 (convenience store), and this smoking hot model was talking all this shit about how she *loved* David Bowie..”, and then build off of that (although I only did this once, and normally use my stock C&F)

Then STACK any other topic/routine afterwards, and you are IN.

Also, you can do it in a low-key street approach pua opener, by just asking quietly, as if you were having a personal thought for the day or something..

No comments from people who are actually too scared to talk to girls, and don’t like the theory behind it.. Just go try it, I guarantee it will open – it was field tested all night to 100% open, and there were closes from it as well.
StrongBad’s variation

Because my little sister has this big poster of David Bowie up on her wall. Now David Bowie is an old man. He’s OLD!!! Do girls think that OLD MEN are hot???
Tyler’s variation

Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do girls think the rock star David Bowie is hot?

(blah, blah, blah)

Get this… my roommate’s little sister, she’s 7 and half years old, has a HUGE picture of David Bowie on her wall. I’m not talking an 8×10; I’m talking a 4-foot by 6-foot POSTER! It’s like the first thing she sees when she wakes up in the morning.

David Bowie is a freaky looking OLD MAN! She’s like 7 and he’s like 70. I’m seriously worried about my roommate’s little sister…

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Passing A Woman’s Tests:

First, you need to understand that women will constantly test you to see if you’re high value enough to hook up with them. If you approach them looking confident, they will want to test you to see if you really are that confident dude that you’re portraying. This should be viewed as a good thing. If she would not be into you, then she’d simply walk away and not talk to you. Her tests are a great opportunity to get crazy amounts of attraction.

Every time you pass a test that she throws at you, her subconscious is thinking, “damn, this guy passed another test with flying colours, he must be high-value. I should hook up with him”. Here are the top ways to pass her tests:

1.) Stay unreactive.

This is huge. Girls like a man who is in control of himself. If he cannot control himself than he will not be able to control her. When she tests you by saying something like, “why are you even talking to me?”, or “you’re too short” you have to stay completely cool. You need to have 100% belief in yourself. Comments like that should not affect your mood at all because you know that you’re a high-value man. Also remember: Whoever is reacting more in the interaction tends to be the lower value person. This is because being non-reactive = being in control.

2.) Maintain your attitude.

Apart from not showing any emotional reaction to her tests, you also need to maintain the same intensity in the approach that you were showing earlier. If she tests you and that causes you to take your game a few notches down, you’re showing her that the test demoralized you. You basically need to keep up the same level of intensity, and the same level of energy before the test, and after her test. Otherwise, you’ll fail her congruence test.

3.) Use humour to diffuse situation

Act unapologetically to her test. Basically say whatever you’d say if you were 100% honest with some humour thrown in. A sample interaction is here (Credit Brad RSD):

HER: Is that your pickup line?

ME: Yeah, did it work?

HER: Why are you talking to me?

ME: Because I think you are hot.

HER: What do you want?

ME: You.

Another response is to ignore her test. Basically say something random that shows her that her tests don’t affect you. You’re not even acknowledging the fact that she’s testing you-you’re simply carrying forward with the pick up.

HER: Why are you talking to me?

ME: Yeah, I can’t believe what just happened in the bathroom…

You just don’t even recognize she was trying to fuck with you and keep moving forward.

This leads to one of my favorite responses whenever I get any shit test:

HER: Nice shirt.

ME: Thanks.

HER: I’m sorry you are too short for me.

ME: Thanks.

HER: I’m sorry you are too old for me.

ME: Thanks.

Your attitude is that the test is so outside of your reality that it did not register at all. You’re simply carrying on with business as usual. A third way to passing a woman’s tests is answering the question you wish she had asked.

HER: Are you trying to pick me up?

ME: No, I had pizza for lunch.

HER: What do you want?

ME: No, I will not makeout with you!

ME: Give me your number.

HER: Sure, I’ll give you my number, just like the 20 other numbers you got tonight.

ME: Oh, OK, well I don’t really need your number we could just go fuck in the bathroom right now.

The last way to pass a test is to over exaggerate. You’re taking what she said and blowing it way out of proportion. This is a tricky one because if you push it too far you will pass her test. But just like the ones I mentioned above, it can be very good with some practice.

HER: You are just trying to have sex with me.

ME: No, actually, I am celibate. I’ve been hurt too many times, and please don’t try to take advantage of me, I’m a shattered vulnerable child. And sex is gross anyways.

So to summarize:

The fact that she’s testing you is good. It means that she cares enough to see if you’re the cool dude who will have sex with her tonight. Passing a woman’s tests will cause massive spikes in attraction, and will make her really into you! So, have fun with it, and try the above methods to see which you like using best.

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When it comes to escalating sexually, you have to take the lead. This has been decided long ago on a biological level. Women are more submissive, so you need to have the balls to be dominant, and lead the interaction. One reason for this is because the woman does NOT want to look like a slut. Initiating sex would make her look like one, so that’s the furthest thing from what she wants to do. The last thing she wants is to be perceived negatively by her friends.

For you to get laid, you need to make the woman feel comfortable enough to sleep with you without any fear of consequences for her. A key point to make this happen is by being/appearing the sex worthy guy who gets lots of sex all the time. If you have a type of attitude where hooking up is a common thing to do she will feel more comfortable as well. Comfort is an important element in the psychology of attraction.

I’ve picked up a bunch of girls at clubs using this mindset. Concentrate on leading, and subtly making her think that she can have sex with you with no consequences. Women crave sex more than guys do (I know this from experience). They would love to have sex with an alpha male with no strings attached. The most important thing for you to do is to convey that you are that alpha male.

Have you ever been on vacation and witnessed how everyone with a bit of game hooks up? That’s because there’s no accountability. The women are not going to be labeled as sluts, so they drop their social anxiety and do what they truly want to do. You can achieve the same result as this by being a sex-worthy alpha male. That’s power!

Another important tip from a psychology of attraction perspective is to make her feel lots of good emotions. Make sure she’s feeling a range of emotions while she is with you. This means teasing her, complimenting her, being hot/cold, telling her interesting/compelling stories about yourself, etc. That will make her really interested in you. Women aren’t interested in guys on a logical level. They are highly emotional, and require a wide range of emotions to make them feel interested.

So to summarize:

The psychology of attraction key components are:

1.) Lead the interaction
2.) Make her feel comfortable
3.) Sub-communicate that sex is normal
4.) Get a range of emotions from her

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Make sure your profile stands out. It has to be unique, and show her why she should message you as opposed to the 234234 other guys on the dating website.

A shorter read is generally better. I've had the best results with a profile in the 250-350 words range. That is usually more than enough to convey all you need to convey. Your profile should highlight your best characteristics (Demonstrations of Higher Value-DHV). And throw a couple of things that make you look human. You need to talk about your most positive qualities while at the same time throwing a coupe of "slight negatives" (i.e. showing sensitive side) to make sure it doesn’t appear too good to be true. On a completely unrelated note, GPS for cars is an awesome resource for GPS systems.

These “negatives” should be things that will make a girl MORE attracted to you. For example, mentioning that there’s movies you cried in, that your family is really important to you, or some other sensitive side of yours.

I like to throw in some qualifiers as well. For example, I'll mention the following:

Living with different cultures is really cool, and I’ve lived in South Africa, and El Salvador” then ask the girl ”are you a person that likes to travel? ;) ". This is good because it sets up a screening frame to the interaction. You're stating that you are interested in a certain type of woman, and that she'll have to meet your standards in order for you to hook up with her. Also, an important dating profile advice is to make sure your profile is as close as possible to being 100% honest!

Another qualifier is, “I’m really fit and love to play sports. If you’re someone that likes to stay active, that’s a big plus =) ”. I use that one a lot because it relates to me. The best way to qualify is to use a characteristic that a girl needs to have in order for you to think of her as "girlfriend material". Qualifiers are a really important part of any dating profile advice.

Make sure to mention that you’re looking for personality as well as looks. This is especially important at hooking up with girls that are a little insecure. For example, I like to say in the profile, “I’m looking for someone with great energy who has more going for them than just their looks”. That’s a line that will get you lots of 7s and 8s really interested. It will also show the 9s and 10s that you care about personality. Its really a win-win thing to use.

Make sure that you mention enough DHV (demonstrations of higher value), qualifiers, sensitive side, and that you care about something other than looks in your profile. That’s the basic cookie-cutter formula that has worked very well for me. Make sure to sprinkle in some humor to let the girl know that you don't take things too seriously.

A good dating profile advice tip is listing a bunch of interests. Many of the searches look at interests as a way to rank your potential matches. To add to that, you can also take some of the different personality tests that the sites provide. I don’t think that the tests say anything too realistic, but many of the girls really look into those and may message you just based on the test result. So they can increase your chances nicely.

Dating profile advice example #1:

Since all the profiles on here are practically the same, here's what i'm not:

The first thing you'll notice about my profile is that I have my shirt on in every single one of my pics. Shocking isn't it??!! I also don't have any pics of me posing like a real weiner next to my car- seriously who cares what I drive?!

Go on...

I don't wear my hat sideways, or backwards, and yes there's a curve on the brim of my hat.
I don't pop my collar.
I don't wear man bling.
I won't take longer than you to get ready.
I don't seriously say words like "G", "boo", "yo", or end any of my words with a "z".

What I have...

I have wicked fun job, and a great life. I lead an active lifestyle, and I'm a lot of fun to be around. I think family and friends are really important, and I'm highly passionate about those relationships. I'm looking for a girl that can hold her own in a conversation, and has something going for her other than great looks.

That's a good way to spin the fact that many dating sites have a ton of guys that are douchebags. Its also a perfect way to stand out from the crowd, and be unique. Plus it has DHVs of a fun job (which the profile doesn't state--that makes the girl message me to find out more), a great life, and an active lifestyle. There's the added bit about the qualifier at the end. And the profile is short and to the point. Some dating profile advice that could have made it better would be to include more information about who he is. Some girls will want to know more before they send that first message.

Dating profile advice example #2:

I'm a pretty down to earth guy. I'm currently in college taking business and have quite a few goals I'm looking to accomplish in my life. I think that its important to stay focused on the things you want to achieve, and I find focused, amitious women sexy =) I'm pretty relaxed and enjoy hanging out with my buddies and having a good laugh.

I'm a country boy - love dogs and the outdoors. There's nothing like being outside having fun!

Enjoy going to the gym- gives me a place to focus my attention. A secret side of mine is that I actually enjoy cooking, and watch the food network for recipe ideas all the time :P

I enjoy going out but I'm not a huge bar guy- worked at a few bars and it's just not my first choice of entertainment. I'd much prefer to go for coffee or tea with some stimulating conversation. Best way to get to know someone if you're meeting for the first time ;)

I'm straight forward and don't like head games. I'm just a mature guy and that stuff really doesn't interest me. I have traveled a lot when I was younger, and am really grateful for the life experience that living in 3rd world countries has given me. I feel like I have a lot to give, and love volunteering in my spare time.

This is another pretty good profile. Short, sweet, to the point. Shows DHV's of working at bars (bad boy), well traveled, a softer side (loves to cook), and ambition (in school, and have big goals lined up for the future). You guys can borrow ideas from the above, but I'd recommend having a profile that is unique, and speaks about YOU. A dating profile advice tip for this profile would be to experiment with adding info, or taking away info to see if that affects the response ratio of your messages.

I'll have another couple of posts that will be specifically about dating profile advice topics like writing messages and selecting the right pictures.

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