5 Key Dating Tips to Avoid the Friend Zone

Wednesday, October 28th, 20093 Commented
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Unless you were born a Casanova, you need to know how to properly avoid the dreadful friend zone. This is that dreadful territory of your relationship with a girl that is neither here nor there; It seems like you’re spending lots of time together, and you have a deeper connection. However, you are not doing anything sexual with the girl, despite the fact that she tells you how much better you are than “those dirt bags that [I] keep hooking up with”. Don’t get me wrong, there are a few girls that have been my friends, but that is because I saw a lot of value in the relationship, and I wasn’t merely trying to progress from being a friend to hooking up with them. Here are 5 steps that I’ve taken in order to stop getting friend zoned by women:

1.) Avoid friend zone via Alpha Male Mindset: You need to have the core beliefs of a man who is not afraid to show his intent. If you like the girl, you will show your feelings by having physical contact with her, by flirting with her, and by asking her out. Often times the guy friends in her life don’t act on their core emotions, and prefer to stay idling nearby. They’re waiting for the perfect timing that is just not going to be there. Maintaining this mindset is important both before you hook up with her and after.

2.) You are not an emotional punching bag: There is a fine line between her telling you a story, or bitching at you about how much of an asshole that guy from work is. I have dated a few girls that have had, “guy friends” who they’d use like emotional punching bags. Whenever something would go wrong these girls would complain to those guys about, “how unfair life is”. If you haven’t hooked up with the girl yet, I’d recommend avoiding these topics completely. Your mentality should be that of a guy that cares, but that will only be used as a shoulder to cry on under dire circumstances. After you have sex this step is less necessary, but remember that you are not in the relationship in order for her to relieve her emotions on you on a daily basis.

3.) Don’t talk to her about past boyfriends/fuck buddies before you hook up with her. If you talk to her about her past hookups, this can get dreadfully close to being the friend she complains to about her emotional baggage. Once you get in the habit of meeting lots of women you will understand how to direct the conversation about past boyfriends, etc. in a way that doesn’t reduce your chances of hooking up.

4.) Avoid friend zone by NOT adding her on facebook before you’re having regular sex. I’d even avoid adding her after you get intimate (I communicate on the phone 90% of the time with the girls I’m seeing now, and haven’t added any of them on facebook). Phone is ideal, msn is ok, and email is to be avoided (from my experience). Facebook is filled with guys that have weak game who are in her friend zone. Stand out from the rest of the “weak game pack” by communicating through the above mentioned ways instead. There’s several other detrimental things about facebook that I will touch up on at a later date.

5.) Don’t put the girl on a pedestal. No matter how hot, or special, or charismatic, or whatever this girl is, she’s still just a girl, and there’s a lot more girls out there that you can hook up with. All of the friendzone relationships that I’ve ever heard of have been caused in part by treating the girl like a delicate flower that deserves more attention and nurture than the guy. This is a surefire way to cause a tangible (for the girl) imbalance in the way the relationship works. It also prevents you from being as spontaneous, or dominant as you should be for the girl to want you.


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3 responses to “5 Key Dating Tips to Avoid the Friend Zone”

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