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Body language plays a huge role in getting a woman interested in you. A lot of guys think that you need to do whatever everyone else is doing, and are afraid to stand out from the crowd. Remember, if you’re doing average things, you’ll get average results.

To get great results you need to do things that others aren’t doing. Here are the top body language attraction tips that you have to follow. If you choose to ignore these body language mistakes, you will be subcommunicating neediness, and that you’re not a sex-worthy guy:

Top 8 Body Language Attraction Tips:

1.) Speaking too fast. This is a biggie, and something I used to do all the time. People who speak too fast sound like they are trying to “get it all out” before they lose the other person’s attention. It gives off an anxious, low self-confidence vibe that kills attraction. Alpha males speak slowly, and with confidence. Everything that an alpha male says is important, and meaningful.

2.) Touching your face when you talk. It subcommunicates nervousness, that you’re indecisive, or that you’re shy. Avoid it all together. This is another thing I used to do often until I realized how much it was hurting my game. Keep your hands in a relaxed position (and make sure not to fiddle with them while you’re speaking to someone else).

3.) Looking down. A body language attraction point that screams, “I’m NOT dominant”. When you look down while someone is talking to you, you’re basically telling them that they are more dominant than you are. Don’t give your power away. Maintain strong eye contact instead. Choose one eye to look at, and do it. This was one of the body language attraction mistakes that has held me down most before I corrected it.

4.) Eye contact. Something really important. A lot of guys are scared to do this, but I’ve found that it is HUGE in creating attraction. Don’t stare at the girl creepily, but do maintain strong eye contact. If you want to go for the kiss looking from eye-to-eye to her lips is a good way to do it. Once you see her look at your lips, or when you see her lips move, go in for the kiss. Works like a charm.

5.) Using “ah” and “um”. People that use these often are trying to prevent others from interrupting them. If you’re an alpha male, you know that others won’t interrupt you. That’s why avoiding those little partial words is key. It will make you sound more confident and determined.

6.) Slouching. This is a huge no-no. Have a comfortable body language that says, “I’m comfortable, and feel good inside”. Slouching says, “I’m weak, and don’t feel good about myself”. If you do this regularly, make sure to change it right now. Slouching is probably the most unattractive thing on this list. Don’t stand too straight, but do have your shoulders back, and your back in an upright position. Check out Brad Pitt in any of his movies for an idea of what this looks like. He’s a guy that is always portraying great body language attraction.

7.) Being afraid to initiate physical contact with a girl. You need to be able to touch a woman if you want to have sex with her. In fact, if you leave off touching till the end it will make her more uncomfortable. You gotta feel relaxed, and be able to touch her at will. Make it effortless and natural. Tap the side of her arm when you’re talking, and don’t be afraid to put your arm around her for a bit if you’re walking side by side.

8.) Turning your head fast when someone wants your attention. Do give them your attention, but don’t do it right away as if you’re at their command.

These are the top 8 body language attraction tips that I’ve used in order to get as much as I could from my non-verbal subcommunication with women. I highly recommend that you review the list, and make sure to correct any of the mistakes that you find yourself doing.

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These first date tips for men are based on years of experimentation with dating that I’ve done personally. This is an area of dating where guys constantly make mistakes. They think that the first date should be as romantic as possible. Through lots of experience, I’ve learned that this doesn’t work well at all. Make sure you DON’T take her to a fancy dinner, or something that she will associate with an official “date” setting. The “date” setting will make her get into a “this guy is a beta male” mindset. I mean, you’re rewarding her before she has done anything to earn your affection. As an alpha male you should only reward her for good behavior. The last thing alpha males do is spend money on women in order to get laid.

First date tips for men: Date mindset. Don’t concentrate on getting laid. Have the mindset of a guy that gets sex regularly, and doesn’t have to work for it very hard. Women can sense your desperation, and will find it extremely unattractive. Try to stay relax and vibe with her. Talk about general topics while you maintain strong eye contact, and confident body language. A great book that mantions all of the body language essentials and teaches you to become an alpha male is Become an Alpha Male by John Alexander.

First date tips for men: Where to take her. Instead of the above expensive date, take her to somewhere completely informal. A coffee shop or a cheap diner place for lunch is good. Don’t make a big deal out of who pays for what. In fact, if you’re shown some alpha male characteristics before, she will often gladly oblige to pay. The last 3-4 girls that I’ve gone on dates with have paid for themselves, or offered to pay for me. This is because it makes them feel more comfortable. When they pay they don’t feel obligated to put out. This takes away the casual relaxed setting that works best.

Coffee shops are great because they are public (she feels safe), highly informal (no strings attached), and only cost a couple of bucks. Another good venue choice is a place that has a bar in the restaurant. This offers you the opportunity to get drinks after dinner. It will look really natural as well. Remember, alcohol lets us do what we want to do in the first place (but are scared of the social repercussions).

I usually have one coffee shop that I frequent. It is located close to my house so that I can take her from the coffee shop to my house easily. I always tip the workers well, and make small talk with them. That way, whenever I bring a new girl over, she sees that I have a high social status and that people like me. This perceived status is really important to women, and it will help your game LOTS.

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Overcoming fear is one thing you need to do in order to increase your learning curve greatly. The best way to overcome fear is to get outside of your comfort zone. This is where true growth is made. The challenging thing about getting outside your comfort zone is that it puts everything on the line. Your ego, emotions, and ambitions are all out there for the world to see. Many will stand on the sidelines and criticize you. A great example would be a huge boxing fight where everyone is watching mayweather vs pacquiao, or penn vs sanchez video for example.

It takes big cojones to do this sort of thing. However, the rewards for those that rise up are amazing.
A few examples from my personal life. When I’m in practice for wrestling, or thai boxing, I’ll often ask to spar with a person who is bigger or more experienced than me. This is counter intuitive, and as soon as I see someone who would be a tough match up I get a tense feeling in my gut, then my brain starts questioning if that’s a good course of action. The way to override these feelings is to act quickly. So I’d ask the 220 pound dude with a shaved head to spar before my brain would have time to figure out the implications. That way the logical side of my brain can’t psyche me out of doing what I need is necessary in order to get better.

I’ve gotten my ass kicked a bunch of times by doing this. This may seem like a bad thing, but there’s a silver lining here as well. I was surprised to find that more often than not I did really well, and even exceeded my own expectations, as well as the expectations of others. Had I just stayed content sparring with mediocre people I would’ve stayed comfortable winning, but I would have not learned at a much quicker pace. The mentality of a person that is willing to look bad in order to challenge themselves is crucial in any area of achievement.

Another personal life example is working in the server industry for over 2 years. Though I didn’t like all of it, having to talk to hundreds of people who you don’t know helps a great deal in overcoming fear of social interactions. Being a server also helped me learn work under pressure. Both things were greatly outside of my comfort zone when I started, but I grew tremendously because of trying them out. Getting that type of job isn’t the “be all solution to socializing” that a lot of people make it out to be, but it certainly helps get more social if that is something you desire.

Same thing applies to girls. When you get out of your comfort zone by talking to a hot blond chick, you’re putting a lot of yourself on the line. There’s a chance that you will get shut down, but if you succeed the rewards will be huge. Plus, you really cant fail because you’re learning during this process. So “failure” can be replaced with “learning” here. That’s a key frame of mind to have. Any experience in life that would be deemed as a failure by the masses is actually just another learning experience. Don’t take those small bumps along the journey seriously. They are just there to test how badly you want to achieve your goals. Do you want to achieve them badly enough to go ahead and overcome fear on the most fundamental level? (Keep reading…)

How to tongue kiss article by Vlad

Psychologically speaking, the eye has always been more than just an organ that detects light and sends a signal along the optic nerve to the brain. The bible mentions that, “The eyes are likened to the windows of the heart” (Mark 7:20-23). And lots of faux-pas cold-reader psychics will charge you upwards of hundreds of dollars an hour per palm reading to tell you that the eyes are truly a window to the soul. We try to stay away from that stuff here at Best Dating Manual. So instead let’s concentrate on getting laid …and goals, positivity, and reaching your potential, but what’s that got to do with hot girls anyway ;)?

So what does that have to do with how to tongue kiss? (Keep reading…)

If you’re a guy that is currently having trouble with your dating life, I can totally relate. There was a period in my life when talking to women was very difficult. My hands would get sweaty, and even my knees would even start shaking when I’d try to do that. Not to mention stuttering, and getting my back to tighten up. The good news is that those are not the natural responses you should be having. They are all psychologically manifested. This means that theoretically you can date beautiful women. I am living proof of that. I went from being dateless to getting a couple of dates a month, to having a consistent girlfriend for over a year. Now the interesting part, how did I do it?

Here is a step by step guide for dating help for men:

1.) You need to commit yourself to becoming better at dating long term. If this goal is the most important thing in your life right now, you need to “sign a contract” with yourself that you will not quit trying to improve this area of your life for the next 18 months. You’ll have some heartbreaking moments along the way, and I need you to commit to persevere now, rather than trying to do that during the heartbreaking moments. (Keep reading…)

This clubbing guide is what I use whenever I go out with the goal to come home with a new girl. Following these steps maximizes my chances of pulling a girl home, and it ensures that I’m having a blast:

• Clubbing Guide Step 1: Social mood right off the bat, even before heading out.

It’s important to get talkative an hour before going clubbing. When I go downtown on the subway, my friends and I always practice projecting our voices by talking loud, making jokes, and getting in a good mood. If there are any girls around, this is the perfect time to approach them. The most important clubbing guide pointer is to get social as soon as possible,and to stay social through out the night. If there is a cute girl sitting in front of you and your friend one of you has to talk to her. Say, “Hi” at the very least. This clubbing guide step is the most important one to follow.

Keep up this social vibe on the way to the club, in the line-up, with the coat check people, bouncers, etc. It makes it much easier to keep up the talking once you’re inside. And we all know that talking is the first step to sex. Plus this keeps you from getting inside of your head. (Keep reading…)

These guy dating tips are the result of me calling women for dates thousands of times. Today, many people have difficulty with talking on the phone with someone they are not familiar with. This isn’t a problem that only afflicts a younger, more internet dependent demographic. I’ve talked to plenty adults who get nervous about talking to women, or business prospects on the phone. With the increase in internet communication, being good on the phone can be one way to set you apart from all the other guys that email/IM/text her.
The most important thing with phone game is having the cojones to do it. So I usually will call a girl right when I’m nervous about doing it. That nervousness is a good feeling because it means you’re about to act despite your fears. Here are 7 guy dating tips for calling girls:

1.) Prepare: Begin by jotting down a few interesting things that happened to you in the past few days. Don’t write elaborate paragraphs, but a few words about topics of conversation. For example, today I went out and got some kick ass fruit salad, watched slumdog millionaire, and I just finished up a hard workout at home. These can be my 3 “go to” topics in case the conversation starts to die out. Elaborating on each one of those topics, and making a couple of jokes can lead to a several of minutes of conversation. (Keep reading…)

A friend zone article By Vlad D.

Unless you were born a Casanova, you need to know how to properly avoid the dreadful friend zone. This is that dreadful territory of your relationship with a girl that is neither here nor there; It seems like you’re spending lots of time together, and you have a deeper connection. However, you are not doing anything sexual with the girl, despite the fact that she tells you how much better you are than “those dirt bags that [I] keep hooking up with”. Don’t get me wrong, there are a few girls that have been my friends, but that is because I saw a lot of value in the relationship, and I wasn’t merely trying to progress from being a friend to hooking up with them. Here are 5 steps that I’ve taken in order to stop getting friend zoned by women:

1.) Avoid friend zone via Alpha Male Mindset: You need to have the core beliefs of a man who is not afraid to show his intent. If you like the girl, you will show your feelings by having physical contact with her, by flirting with her, and by asking her out. Often times the guy friends in her life don’t act on their core emotions, and prefer to stay idling nearby. They’re waiting for the perfect timing that is just not going to be there. Maintaining this mindset is important both before you hook up with her and after. (Keep reading…)

By Vlad D:

There’s a lot of things to consider when it comes to any facebook date. For beginner game, here are my top 3 reasons why you shouldn’t add a girl on facebook/myspace before you’re having regular sex.

1.) Putting the girl on a pedestal. Facebook is really good at this since you have access to all her pics. That was the worst for me personally. I’d look at the modeling pics that a girl would have and say stuff like, “damn, look at that bubble butt”. I’d actually psyche myself out of getting together with the girl because complexes about how high value she was. This is mostly fundamental-level game related because if you’re 100% confident, and realistically see yourself as a high value male, seeing the girl’s hot pics will just inspire you to hook up with her. Since we’re not all at that level when we start out dating, its a good idea to avoid setting yourself up as the ‘distant observer’. Down the road though, make sure that the her pics make you think of how much you want to hook up with the girl, rather than focusing on a perceived difference in social value. This is a rookie mistake that I’ve made a bunch of ties when it comes to facebook dates. (Keep reading…)

This book is geared toward a younger audience than most other books I’ve reviewed. If you’re a college age male looking to rethink how you approach women, then this book is for you.

Many of the stories and examples provided in this book are based on college life experience. This is understandable since the author, Joseph Matthews, wrote it when he was in his mid-twenties.

Some of the approaches specified will seem outlandish if you’re a mature guy (in the thirty plus range). Despite this, I found The Art Of Approaching to be a very good book with plenty of high quality information for anyone.

Joseph describes the experience from his youth: Generally shy, and far from a ladies man. This all changed when he had a strong realization that urged him to take charge of his dating life. The motivation that made him learn how to approach and date beautiful women also led to him developing a business where he teaches other men to approach successfully. (Keep reading…)