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These guy dating tips are the result of me calling women for dates thousands of times. Today, many people have difficulty with talking on the phone with someone they are not familiar with. This isn’t a problem that only afflicts a younger, more internet dependent demographic. I’ve talked to plenty adults who get nervous about talking to women, or business prospects on the phone. With the increase in internet communication, being good on the phone can be one way to set you apart from all the other guys that email/IM/text her.
The most important thing with phone game is having the cojones to do it. So I usually will call a girl right when I’m nervous about doing it. That nervousness is a good feeling because it means you’re about to act despite your fears. Here are 7 guy dating tips for calling girls:

1.) Prepare: Begin by jotting down a few interesting things that happened to you in the past few days. Don’t write elaborate paragraphs, but a few words about topics of conversation. For example, today I went out and got some kick ass fruit salad, watched slumdog millionaire, and I just finished up a hard workout at home. These can be my 3 “go to” topics in case the conversation starts to die out. Elaborating on each one of those topics, and making a couple of jokes can lead to a several of minutes of conversation. (Keep reading…)

Unless you were born a Casanova, you need to know how to properly avoid the dreadful friend zone. This is that dreadful territory of your relationship with a girl that is neither here nor there; It seems like you’re spending lots of time together, and you have a deeper connection. However, you are not doing anything sexual with the girl, despite the fact that she tells you how much better you are than “those dirt bags that [I] keep hooking up with”. Don’t get me wrong, there are a few girls that have been my friends, but that is because I saw a lot of value in the relationship, and I wasn’t merely trying to progress from being a friend to hooking up with them. Here are 5 steps that I’ve taken in order to stop getting friend zoned by women:

1.) Avoid friend zone via Alpha Male Mindset: You need to have the core beliefs of a man who is not afraid to show his intent. If you like the girl, you will show your feelings by having physical contact with her, by flirting with her, and by asking her out. Often times the guy friends in her life don’t act on their core emotions, and prefer to stay idling nearby. They’re waiting for the perfect timing that is just not going to be there. Maintaining this mindset is important both before you hook up with her and after. (Keep reading…)

By Vlad D:

There’s a lot of things to consider when it comes to any facebook date. For beginner game, here are my top 3 reasons why you shouldn’t add a girl on facebook/myspace before you’re having regular sex.

1.) Putting the girl on a pedestal. Facebook is really good at this since you have access to all her pics. That was the worst for me personally. I’d look at the modeling pics that a girl would have and say stuff like, “damn, look at that bubble butt”. I’d actually psyche myself out of getting together with the girl because complexes about how high value she was. This is mostly fundamental-level game related because if you’re 100% confident, and realistically see yourself as a high value male, seeing the girl’s hot pics will just inspire you to hook up with her. Since we’re not all at that level when we start out dating, its a good idea to avoid setting yourself up as the ‘distant observer’. Down the road though, make sure that the her pics make you think of how much you want to hook up with the girl, rather than focusing on a perceived difference in social value. This is a rookie mistake that I’ve made a bunch of ties when it comes to facebook dates. (Keep reading…)

This book is geared toward a younger audience than most other books I’ve reviewed. If you’re a college age male looking to rethink how you approach women, then this book is for you.

Many of the stories and examples provided in this book are based on college life experience. This is understandable since the author, Joseph Matthews, wrote it when he was in his mid-twenties.

Some of the approaches specified will seem outlandish if you’re a mature guy (in the thirty plus range). Despite this, I found The Art Of Approaching to be a very good book with plenty of high quality information for anyone.

Joseph describes the experience from his youth: Generally shy, and far from a ladies man. This all changed when he had a strong realization that urged him to take charge of his dating life. The motivation that made him learn how to approach and date beautiful women also led to him developing a business where he teaches other men to approach successfully. (Keep reading…)

By John Alexander, author “How to Become an Alpha Male“

You know the scenario. You start dating a woman. After the first date, all you get is a peck on the cheek.

Second date, you get a mouth kiss. Third date, you hold hands. It’s a very slow process.

You can’t understand why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman. After all, you’re buying her meals. You even splurged on some pretty flowers.

In short… you’re being incredibly nice to the woman. So what’s the problem? Why won’t she have sex with you?

It comes down to human motivation. People behave in ways that cause them to get rewarded. They avoid behaviors that cause them punishment.

So the reason why guys often have trouble getting laid is because they reward bad behavior. A chick will lead them on and then make it clear there won’t be sex that night, yet the guy rewards her by cuddling with her. (Keep reading…)

Dating Rule By John Alexander, author of How to Become an Alpha Male.

Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I’ve learned that there’s nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman.

However, by following a very important dating rule, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship.

1. Dating Rule: Meet her in a non-traditional venue.

By that I mean, don’t take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a “date.” If you do, that puts her into the same “make him wait” mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.

Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don’t make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid.

As an alpha male, you shouldn’t do anything because you’re “hoping to get laid.” That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels.

A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing. (Keep reading…)

By Michael Pilinski, author of “Without Embarrassment“:

You look up and see a girl and she’s your type. You think of the ideal tip for dating that you’ve heard somewhere for this instant. You lock eyes for a moment like a pair of deer caught in each other’s headlights. She acknowledges you with a mild curiosity in her eyes… waiting. Seconds grind by like hours, and you can feel the moment gurgling away like drain-o down a sewer. You’re vaguely aware there’s a play to be made here, but you’re totally unprepared. Something distracts her then — she turns away… the train pulls out, she gets into a cab, the bell rings for class. The moment vanishes like a ghost as though it had never existed in the first place. But you will see it over and over again in your mind won’t you? Re-played a hundred times.

If you’ve ever known the agony of watching a chance encounter ripe with romantic possibility slip away while you stood helplessly and watched, then you know all about the lowest moment in a man’s life. Fear of having our romantic advances rejected by a woman still remains the #1 most difficult aspect of trying to hook up. That fear remains whether or not you have a useful tip for dating in mind when the girl is in front of you. On top of that, this fear may in fact be worse today than ever before in the past. (Keep reading…)

I had mixed success with girls when I was younger. By that I mean some of the chubbier girls showed a liking to me. I just couldn’t reciprocate back with similar feelings. Just like any other guy out there I had that one girl which seemed perfect, and all I wanted to do was go out with her. I knew I would treat her much better than those boyfriends she kept on complaining about. But alas, I didn’t act on my core instincts, and chose to wait things out instead of taking the necessary action. She got a long term boyfriend while I was debating on asking her out, and at that point my chance was over. At the time I didn’ t receive any good single dating advice, so I did the type of stuff that I learned from Hollywood movies. Much to my surprise none of it seemed to work. I simply didn’t have a dating manual to go by, and that frustrated me.

This story repeated itself a year later with another girl. This time I sure would have learned my lesson and gotten my balls out of my purse enough to ask her out, make a move, or something… but no. That is not what happened, and instead I just got fed up with myself again. Those two experiences were very humbling. I felt like I was on the right path to take on the world.. become the next big thing in whatever I decided to pursue.. and yet there was this gaping whole in my self esteem left by two very unsuspecting girls. The above experiences were crushing, they left me feeling heartbroken, sad and depressed.

It seemed like there was something missing. I though I was a cool dude, but there were certain things that I felt really uncomfortable with doing around women. I felt awkward and scared when initiating physical contact. When I’d be talking to a hot girl in class I would sweat profusely, and my body would get really tense. Talking to a pretty girl on the street (whom I didn’t know) was completely out of the question.

Something was seriously wrong here, and a seed was sown from these early failures. A seed that later grew into my desire to become a guy who has his shit dialed both when it comes to women and when it comes the other aspects of his life as well.

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My initial desire to become better with women transformed itself into a long 1 year plus relationship that with a pretty good looking girl. This is after I got some single dating advice from friends and the internet. At the time I didn’t find any of the products of the high quality that are now available. Somewhere during the year I realized that one of the reasons I was in the relationship was for the comfort it provided. Its great to know that you can always get laid and have an excuse from putting yourself outside of your comfort zone.

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Are you the type of guy who is really shy around women? Do you sometimes get an anxious feeling that translates into fear when you are around beautiful women? These are the types of feelings that I’d encounter on a regular basis a few years ago.

If the above applies to you, you’re in the right place. Mike Pilinski wrote “Without Embarrassment” specifically to help you get over your fear. Mike uses the term Severe Rejection Hyper-Sensitivity (SRHS) to describe the above symptoms. With “Without Embarrassment”, Mike’s goal is to help you identify the cause of this condition, and work towards eliminating the devastating effects that it can have over your love life.

Michael Pilinski didn’t always possess the awesome skill in approaching women that he now has. He used to be a rejection-hypersensitive guy whose inability to feel comfortable around women created some serious problems for his sex life. After deciding that “enough was enough” Michael got on a journey of discovering the reasons behind his shyness, as well as lots of experimental interactions with women. This led to him discovering some key realizations about the way that women view men. One of the key principles that he emphasizes in the book is the importance of being viewed as a High Status Male.

This book is collection of all of most important lessons that Mike Pilinski has managed to learn after he committed himself to getting the dating area of his life handled. One of the most useful tools I found in “Without Embarrassment” was the Male Dominance Scale. It is a scale that women use to grade a man as someone who is sex-worthy, or not. You can use it to see how well you rank. This really opened up my eyes as it provided as an objective way to rank how women view me. (Keep reading…)

If you have had a couple of girlfriends in the past, but haven’t yet learned what to do in order to get the quality of women that you truly desire, then this may be the book you’ve been searching for.

The author is not an arrogant, cocky dude. John is 39, and his style of writing shows that he has plenty of life-experience. He was not an Alpha Male when he was younger, and instead became one later on in his life. I thought that was inspiring because it shows that his method can be learned by someone who was not an alpha male for most of their life. When I was reading this book for the first time, that was highly motivational for me. Its great to see that attracting women is a skill that you can develop rather than a natural born ability.

John Alexander points out early on in his book that most guides written for men about how to attract favorable attention from women focus largely on WHAT to do to please the woman. His approach, he says, is to concentrate instead on how to BECOME the man that women respond to. This is something that I advocate highly. When you focus on yourself you see huge benefits in other areas of your life totally unrelated to dating. This type of approach makes you a more well-rounded person. This also allows you to grow in multiple areas of your life.

When you’re doing things to attract the girl you are shooting yourself in the foot. Some shady tactics may work temporarily, but this approach seldom lasts on a long term scale. That is why I think this book is so awesome. It focuses on working on yourself. Making yourself the attractive alpha male.

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